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Its 2010 and we are headed to India again. These are the adventures of Sanjay, Kris, Daya & Lys as we go to countries we have never been before and meet people we have never met before (sometimes that includes family members).

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

The Wedding

Let me just affirm that Indian wedding are very different from weddings in the US and very similar. Apparently, there were 23 other brides waiting to get their hair and make up done at the shop she went to.


Here is a picture of the chaos as the beginning of the service and yes the bride was late.


Thats Daya as the, yes, THE flower girl. The most important girl in the wedding. Here's another difference. There was no rehearsal.


Ashish taking pictures of the wedding up front. He is Daya and Lyse's uncle. A general surgeon in his working life and doing a residency in Urology. He has two more years to go.



Here is a pre wedding photograph at the hotel we were staying at. From left is Carol from Colorado Springs, Aunty Rosa, Aunty Sarla, Daya, Elysia, Kris, Manju and Sanna.


The pastor insisted that everybody take off their shoes and that women cover their heads. He refused to begin the ceremony until all women had covered their heads. Talk about making rubrics the idols in a formerly Lutheran church.


The bride and groom. Daisy and Abhishek



The groomsmen: Aditya and Swarit. By tradition they are meant to be eligible bachelors. Aditya is in high school.


Its almost done

Here is the picture at the end of the ceremony. The day is not done. It must have been 100 F. they look very composed for having been in a building designed to be the inside of an oven.





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Friday, October 10, 2008

Let the Festivities Begin October 10

I thought we were in for an informal lunch with the family before the dinner with the brides family. However, this informal meeting started with garlands. I was instructed (read ordered by Manjula) to dress formally but not a suit. I only had a cleanish pair of jeans. The code for women is even stricter and Kris is supposed to be dressed up all the time and of course you can wear the same thing twice in the same day.

This informal event carried on for a few hours and we snuck out during the sermon (sermon?) which seemed like a rehearsal for the wedding this evening.

Mum and Dad (Victor and Bindu) lead the procession



Marigold garlands everywhere for everyone it seems.


This is Aditya our oldest nephew (Rajiv and Deepa's oldest). Sanjay used to have hair like this and wishes he was this good looking then and that he still had hair.


This is the culmination of the 'informal' lunch we had. What you are seeing is the set up for the bride to be blessed and welcomed to the grooms family. There is a lot presentation of gifts on both sides, reading bible verses (naturally I lucked out and got the deutro-Pauline text from Ephesians - "a wife should obey .....). This was followed by an anointing of sorts with turmeric by the women and then a sermon/nette. Our kids were in terminal melt down by then and so we snuck off and they slept and I updated the blog.


Look at the bewildred look on Lyse's face. Daya and her cousing Jaywant are breaking up garlands and putting/throwing them on the floor near the stool where the bride will sit to recieve blessings and prayers.


Here is the bride waiting for the ceremonies to begin. Each member of my immediate family read a Bible verse and blessing and gave her a gift. I have no idea what we gave.


The drummers announced each part of the ceremony with gusto and loudness.


The grooms response to the drumming perhaps?
Or was it a stress headache.
We have all been told to be on our best behavior.
Or else!


Later that evening. Clothes have changed except for the narrators. Dinner. This is the "get to know you part of the program" Unfortunately, getting Choudhries together at one place and time twice in one day is almost impossible. Like trying to herd cats. Manjula tried her best - but there is only so much one can do.


That is mehendi aka henna.


Daya's hand with mehendi on it.



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Travel Days October 8 & 9: London to Delhi, Delhi to Bhopal

Our flight from London was scheduled to leave at 9:45 am. To get there in time we had to get on the first train on the tube from Highgate and travel south and west for almost two hours. You can do the calculations about wake up etc. And our body clocks had still not adjusted to London time.

At Heathrow we pick up our luggage from the left luggage office and get to check a few minutes inside our check time and discover that there are no lines or people who look like passengers. Its convenient but eery. We check in and when I ask if the plane is leaving on time they answer in the affirmative. So I persist and they say that its leaving at 1:40pm London time. And to make up for all hassle of early rising, lack of sleep, two kids in early stages of meltdown, they give us a breakfast voucher. We had three seat together and one across the aisle because the 777 we were traveling on, has rows of three in the economy section. Each seat had its own TV which was good because our DVD player battery was mostly depleted by the time we boarded.

We were wiped before we even got on the plane. Kris took a nap in the waiting area. At 1:40 we boarded and the girls were asleep before we took off. Air India as usual is fantastic in the air and terrible on the ground. We could not find a number to call and confirm the day before. I am sure it is on their website but it is very difficult to find. Oh and you can't check in online either. Great!

We arrived in the Delhi at about 2:30 am local time. The bags took their time walking out and then getting a ride took a little bit of doing. We picked up our train tickets at the hotel we were supposed to stay the night and went straight to the railway station. Where we waited, in the upper class waiting room, with people sleeping on the floor and on the benches. We chose to sit next to another couple, probably from the UK which made for less staring at Kris. Though by this time Kris had had about an hour of sleep.

Daya had managed to pick up a cold and so she was miserable and doped for most of the trip and Lyse slept quite a bit too. All in all the girls have done very well despite the loss of sleep. Daya has been the easiest to adjust and Lyse wants to go home. But then two year olds are known for their flexibility and ability to adjust. Right!

Heathrow waiting for departure


Leaving: New Delhi Station. Shatabdi Express to Bhopal. Delhi the nations capital seems to be connected by fast trains to state capitals. The train itself did not seem very fast.

The views from the window are so typically India. Poverty, slums, cows, buffaloes, goats, people defecating, bathing etc. It was clear the train people had spent all their budget on fixing up the chair cars and none on the bathrooms which stank. In my business we, we would say that the bathrooms would not pass HQS standards. HQS is the lowest form of housing standard you can get in the US.

This is one continuous slum running alongside the railroad almost halfway to Agra when the next one starts. It would seem that a significant number of Indian urban residents live in slums aka substandard housing.

One the other side of the window we were well fed. The food kept on flowing towards us and I was strangely hungry for whatever they brought. I just wish that the toast and eggs had come together and not half an hour apart.


Here's a quick shot of what appears to be a small outpost fort outside Gwalior. I was unable to get a picture of the magnificent fort in Gwalior which seems to stand three stories high above the train tracks (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gwalior). It was from this fortress the Rani Laxmibai (Queen) lead the first major military uprising against the British in 1857. The following year Indian changed hands. It became the domain of Her Majesty's governement instead of being chattel of the East India Company. Rani Laxmibai died in battle outnumbered and betrayed by both her colleagues and the British.


Bhopal our initial destination. Were we glad to be here. The long trek from London is done. Because we are parents we have low expectations for getting sleep during travel. However, jet lad and travel exceeded our expectations of sleep loss significantly. Next time we will not be traveling with a two year old. It is amazing how she is still on Gallup time. And when we get back she will be on Indian time.


My brother-in-law Sunil and his two year old daughter, Sanna, who is a few months younger than Lyse. Sanna is a featherweight compared to Lyse. I guess its those Dutch genes. Sunil has visited us in Gallup. He and my sister have started a new ministry to plant churches in Nagpur.


Thats my little and only sister, Manjula on the left, holding Sanna with Daya. She is trained as an opthamologist and has done thousands of cataract operations. We are waiting for dinner to arrive.

Thats our nephew, Jaywant. He is Sunil and Manju's first born.


Last night Lyse woke up at 1:15am saying that she had had a nice nap and wanted a snack. Then Daya woke up. And then we had a snack.

Easy Day - Trafalgar Square & St. Pauls

Tuesday was meant to be a relaxing day. We knew we were leaving in the early hours of the morning on Wednesday to get to the airport by check in time.


Another park: Here is Lyse at yet another park near the river.


Trafalgar Square: This is just to prove that I was there. Forty years later. I don't intend for my next trip to London to wait that long.


St. James Park: Kris and Daya at the entrance to St. James Park. The way to travel with kids is find parks with pigeons preferably or just plain parks. I wonder what Lyse's memories of London will be apart from a severly disrupted sleep schedule. She has been longing for home for some time now.


St. James park: Daya feeding a squirrel with a peanut given to her by an unknown stranger. She took a peanut from a stranger so did the squirrel, except that the squirrel ran away after taking Daya's peanut.



The houses of Parliament on the river on Thames.


We are not really sure what this is.... something to do with the Cavalry. All I can say is that if I was some third world warrior, I would be really worried when these big guys with the tassles flying off their helmets came charging my way. They had an exhibition "Boots not made for walking". We also saw to horse mounted policeman and wondered if that might not be a good way to attract tourists. Imagine a Gallup city cop with a stetson mounted on a horse in the downtown area. How cool would that be!



At St. James Park: This little boy escaped from his south east asian nanny and walked up to the stork and grabbed his bill. The park staff person was freaking out and the boy cool as ice. Nanny came and got him after he wandered of after the whole incident with the stork and I doubt she even knew if it happened.




The lions of Trafalgar below Nelson's statue.



St. Pauls Cathedral. No pictures were allowed. We climbed a lot. Daya and Kris climbed all the way to the top - 572 steps. Sanjay chickened out at the whispering gallery only 372 steps up. After that you could see down through the spiral stairs and this, my fear of heights could not handle.




Here is Lyse outside the Whispering Gallery of St. Paul's. The view of London seems to be one of perpetual construction in all the directions visible.


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Monday, October 6, 2008

Peter Sellers


We were walking up Muswell Road when we saw this sign which says something to the effect that Peter Sellers lived here for four years.


Here's the rest of the house.


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Monday, October 6, 2008

The girls in front of number 16 Shepherds Hill.


Apparently you can see St. James from here on a clear day. We took a picture anyway.


Lyse, playing with her lunch.


Daya is under the weather with a bit of a cold and the consequent low energy and loss of apetite. She took a good long nap after this.
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